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First dates are crucial in determining whether someone will be a good match. In a world where people make snap judgments about each other, it’s extremely important to put your best foot forward on your dates.
A first date is your opportunity to make a connection and enjoy your time with your date.
But, there are things that can get in the way of you making a great connection on a good date.
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When You Should Cancel Your Date
A serious problem I’ve often seen with women is their decision to go on a date when they’ve had a bad day.
Now, I’m not just talking about any bad day. I’m talking about the kind of bad day that leaves you bitter, defensive, and on the brink of an emotional outburst.
I’ve seen women get aggressive, take simple statements or compliments the wrong way, make offensive remarks, and even take anger out on their date. All because they had a terrible day at work.
No one is immune from having a bad day, but not everyone has the ability to have a bad day and then go on a date with a positive, upbeat attitude.
If this is you, then it’s time to add this rule to your rulebook: If you’ve had a bad day and won’t be able to maintain a positive, friendly, and upbeat attitude then you need to cancel your date and reschedule for another day.
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It’s A Risk Worth Taking
You may be thinking, “I don’t want to cancel the date just because I’ve had a bad day! What if he doesn’t want to reschedule?”
But, think about it like this, it’s better to take that chance and cancel the date because if you do go on the date with a bad attitude, you’re definitely going to cross yourself off as a potential dating partner.
Better you try to reschedule the date than leave a bitter taste in your date’s mouth.
Plus, if a person is really interested in getting to know you, rescheduling the date shouldn’t be a problem!
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When Is It Okay NOT to Cancel The Date?
Once you’ve been on several dates, this rule doesn’t necessarily apply.
Because, if you really want to build a future with someone, you will go through ups and downs together and you need to know that your partner can give you the support and encouragement you need during difficult times.
But, this still does not give you a pass to have attitude or treat your date or boyfriend poorly.
So, the next time your bad day coincides with a date, give yourself time to readjust your attitude and reschedule the date for another day!
For more great dating advice, get my book: Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve.
Till Next Time,
Dee
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One extra piece of advice I would give to women is if you cancel a date then you should suggest an alternative. Many men have experienced flakes who cancel at the last minute and we naturally get suspicious – if you suggest no alternate arrangement then our instinct tells us that you have changed your mind.
This is one of those occasions when you need to take the initiative 🙂
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Great suggestion!! Thanks for checking out my new post. It’s great hearing your insight, as always!!
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Great article. Though I’ve often found a great date can be a great turnaround for a not-so-great day. Sometimes even if you’re not in the mood for socializing, the right guy can get you there!
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A great date can definitely turn a bad day into a great one! Thanks for taking the time to comment!!
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