Getting advice about dating and relationships from friends and family can be a sticky situation at times. You want to believe that they have your best interest at heart, but truthfully, sometimes their own experiences or hardships in dating can have a negative effect on the quality of advice that they give.
From my experience, there are four basic types of “woman advisors,” as I like to call them. Three of these woman advisors must be avoided at all costs! Don’t worry, I’ll briefly explain each kind.
1. The Bitter Belle
The Bitter Belle thinks that all men are dogs. She’s usually never in a relationship or if she is in one, she’s very unhappy in it and her advice to you always reflects that sentiment.
Follow her advice and you’ll end up bitter and alone, just like her.
2. The Go Along Girl
The Go Along Girl just tells you what you want to hear. She goes along with whatever mood she thinks you’re in. If you want to leave your man, she’ll agree with you that it’s time to go.
If you want to stay in a bad relationship a little longer to see if it’s never really going to change, the go along girl will firmly support that decision.
The Go Along Girl give you advice that only allows you to achieve temporary happiness, not growth or perspective.
3. The Captain Save A Relationship Girl
The Captain Save A Relationship Girl will never advise you to leave a man under any circumstances. Whether he treats you like a queen or the scum of the earth, the Captain Save a Relationship Girl will always tell you how lucky you are to have a man at all.
She sees being in a relationship as better than being single at all costs. The Captain Save a Relationship Girl will find a way to make your destructive relationship seem pretty ideal.
4. The Reality Check Girl
The Reality Check Girl gives you the reality check that you so desperately need! She helps you see your situation in a much more objective light so that you can ultimately make a smart, informed decision about your relationship for yourself.
She doesn’t necessarily tell you what you need to do, but she guides you down the path to clarity so that you can see the big picture for yourself.
Those are my four basic types of woman advisors. The first three woman advisors are not the ideal people you want to get your advice from so try to stick with the Reality Check Girl and get a realistic perspective on your situation.
What are your thoughts about getting advice from friends and family? Do you know who exactly you’re getting your advice from? Do you steer clear of talking about your relationships all together? I’d love to hear your thoughts and perspective! Please leave your comments or questions below.
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Till next time,