How To Tell If It’s A Date Or A Hang Out

Dear Dee’s Dating Diary,

How would you know if it’s a date or just a hang out?

Dear Dater,

Usually, you should be able to tell by the way he asked you.

Did he ask if you want to go out or did he ask if you want to hang out or get together? If he didn’t specifically ask to “take you out,” “go out,” “do something,” or anything else along those lines, then you’re probably not being asked out on a date.

Generally speaking, if you’re being asked to “hang out,” it’s just that, a hang out. But, if the plan is to hang out at a place other than your homes, like a park or any other public place, then it probably is a date.

If you can’t tell from how he asked, you should know what the rendezvous is about when it’s closer to the time of your planned meeting. Closer to that time, your date should be telling you what the plan is. But…

You can also subtly sneak this into conversation by saying something like, “I’m looking forward to getting together on Saturday, did you have anything in mind you wanted to do?” This way, you can gauge what his intentions are as far as it being a date or a hang out/Netflix and chill.

If he responds to this with, “Nope” or “I thought we could just chill and watch a movie,” then you know what it is.

However, if he says something like, “I’m not sure, what would you like to do?” Then I would take it as a date!

I hope this helps and thanks for reaching out to me with your dating question!

Yours Truly,