Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Parts 3-5) & FREE Book Giveaway!!

It’s finally here! Parts 3, 4, and 5 of The Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single!

The Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Part 3)

The Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Part 4)  

The Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Part 5)

If you missed the first two parts of this series, you can catch up on it here:

The Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Part 1)

The Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Part 2)

I’m also doing a FREE BOOK GIVEAWAY, in partner with The Right to R.E.A.L. Love Radio Show, for my book Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve!

At the end of this month, 4 lucky winners will randomly be selected to receive a FREE paperback copy of Picking up the Pieces!

Enter here for your chance to win! —> Book Giveaway Entry

Till Next Time,

Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Part 1 & 2)

If you’re single and wanting a great relationship, but are struggling to get it, you might just be keeping yourself single and not even know it!

I had the honor of returning to The Right to R.E.A.L. Love Radio Show with host Jay Mayo to discuss the top 5 issues that keep women single.

If you’re a woman, you’ve dealt with one or more of these issues at some point in your life! So turn off the TV, put down the phone, and listen in:

The Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Part 1)

The Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Part 2)

If you recognize that you’ve been affected by one or more of these issues and want to break free of them, let me help you through it– grab my book, Picking up the Pieces, or schedule a coaching session today!

Stay tuned for parts 3, 4, and 5!

Till Next Time,

 

 

Do You Have An Unreasonable Deal-Breaker?

Dear Dee’s Dating Diary,

I exchanged phone numbers with someone through an online dating app and he immediately called me. The first thing he says to me is, “What are your deal-breakers?”

The question threw me off and I guess I was silent for a few seconds so he quickly says, “Well I asked because I have a big deal-breaker and if we don’t agree then dating each other isn’t going to work out.” I was kind of shocked because I’ve never had a man say anything like this to me before, but I was also really curious about what this deal breaker was so I asked him, “What’s your deal-breaker?”

He says, “Do you believe in evolution??”

I’m like, “Uhhh, I’m Christian so I believe God created people as opposed to us evolving from a species of animal.” Well, this set him clean off!

He says, “I received my master’s in evolutionary biology so I literally specifically studied this stuff and there is a lot of clear evidence and proof that we evolved from another species and if you don’t believe it then you’re just ignorant because the facts of evolution are out there and it’s true!”

I said, “I do believe in Darwinism and survival of the fittest, but I don’t believe we evolved from another species.” He then said I need to educate myself because science has proved this to be undoubtedly true.

At this point, I felt pretty offended and put off and got a little combative with him, I said, “Science had also been used in the past to prove the inferiority of black people and women so I’m not sold on anything just because it came from some random scientists. It was science that once said black people are better athletes because we have an extra muscle or something.”

My point was just that science has been used in the past to promote other agendas and I don’t just blindly believe everything that comes from scientists.

I could tell he definitely didn’t like what I said and he proceeded to question my education and asked me if I had even gone to college. I told him I also have a graduate degree, but not in evolutionary biology. Then I asked him, “So what job can you get with a masters in evolutionary biology other than a job teaching that very subject?” –I know I was being rude, but I was offended and couldn’t bite my tongue anymore…

He responded, “Right now, I tutor graduate students in the evolutionary biology program.”

I laughed really hard, in my head. LOL!

I was completely turned off by this guy and didn’t want to continue our back and forth jabs so I told him I had to get ready for bed and needed to go. He said, “Even though you don’t believe in evolution, I can tell you’re smart and I would like to talk again.”

I said, “Okay,” but got off the phone and never responded to him again.

Although he was willing to give me a chance even though I don’t believe in evolution, he really rubbed me the wrong way and I just didn’t want to talk to him ever again. Am I wrong? Should I have given him a chance?

Dear Dater,

Wow! That’s a new one. I thought I had heard it all, as far as deal-breakers, but I guess not!

It’s definitely strange that someone’s deal-breaker would be not believing in evolution, but, hey, plenty of people have plenty of unreasonable wants in a partner.

While I do acknowledge that some of us have beliefs that we need our partner to share, I don’t feel that believing in evolution needs to be one of those shared beliefs.

Here’s the kicker for this guy, just because a woman believes in evolution doesn’t mean that she’s a good person or will be a great girlfriend or wife one day. Believing in evolution definitely doesn’t speak to whether someone will treat you well, respect you, or even stay faithful to you.

So it’s pretty unreasonable for him to think that believing in evolution is going to make a woman right for him. And, unfortunately for him, this particular deal-breaker is going to cut him off from a lot of amazing women in this world!

Obviously, this guy connected with you on some level and may have felt that he was being unreasonable with the evolution thing, which is why he said he wanted to talk to you again anyway. However, it’s completely understandable if he has put such a bitter taste in your mouth that you never want to talk to him again.

In my personal opinion, he’s probably not the right person for you anyway because the man you’re meant to be with would never call you ignorant or insult your intelligence just because you don’t believe in evolution or his other beliefs.

It’s one thing to have different opinions and it’s another thing to insult and offend people simply because they don’t share your opinions or beliefs. Meaning, you should still be aware of how the men you date are talking to you. A man who is willing to put you down and insult you because he doesn’t like your perspective is not a man worth your time. 

It’s okay to have different views, but it’s not okay to be rude to someone because they don’t believe what you believe. 

At the end of the day, you always have to trust your gut instinct and if it’s telling you to run for the hills, then run for the hills!!

Thanks for sharing your experience and I wish you all the best in life and love! 

Yours Truly,

Dee Simone

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Your Confidence Is Dependent On Men And You Don’t Even Know It!

We’ve all been there. We’ve been stood up, taken for granted, compared to other women, cheated on, broken up with, and the list goes on… 

What happens afterwards, though, that is the most important part.

You see, we all tend to internalize negative feelings about ourselves because our dating life or relationships are going the way we want them to. And so we bash and blame ourselves for someone else’s actions, thinking things like–

  • What’s wrong with me?
  • Why aren’t I enough for him?
  • Why can’t I be like ____ (fill in the blank)?
  • Why doesn’t he appreciate all the things that I do for him?
  • I hate the way I look!
  • My body is disgusting!
  • I am so fat!
  • Why can’t I be super skinny? 
  • If I was prettier this wouldn’t have happened!
  • I must be bad in bed!
  • I’m not fun to be around!

Of course, there’s an endless list of nasty and negative things that we beat ourselves up with.

And why? Why do we do this on a regular basis??

We do it because, for some strange reason, it’s easier than loving ourselves and pushing away men who aren’t good for us.

Dependent Confidence

Most of us have been trapped in that cycle of living for other people’s acknowledgment, love, and approval. If we do start to like ourselves a little bit in some area, it’s usually only a matter of time before we qualify our confidence and reduce it accordingly.

Our self-image and confidence is often based on what society and the media tells us we are supposed to be. But when we let the outside world decide how we need to look, what will “complete” us, and what we need in order to be happy, we’re actually deciding to live unfulfilled, unhappy, loveless lives.

Remember, when you don’t love yourself, you can’t truly let a healthy love come into your life.

Artificial Confidence

Translated to the dating world, many of us have allowed our confidence to be entirely based on how men treat us or view us, how often men are calling us, or how often they tell us we’re “beautiful,” “gorgeous,” or “sexy.”

You should never need to hear a man say, “you’re beautiful,” to truly believe it deep down inside. 

Think about it this way, if you’re dating a man who constantly tells you that you’re beautiful and you start believing it and feeling really good about yourself, what is going to happen if you break up with this man?

Your confidence is going to drop quicker than it rose and that’s because it was never true internal confidence. In these situations, you’re building up an artificial confidence that feels real at the time, but isn’t. It’ll only last as long as you’re in that particular relationship and the man hasn’t messed up.

Get Control Over Your Confidence

Unless you do the internal work to regain control of your self-image and, therefore, your self-esteem and self-confidence, you feeling good will always be dependent on men, society, and the media.

The process begins with self-awareness and ends with a discovery and love of all the greatness within you.

Start by asking yourself these questions: 

  • Why do you feel the way you do about yourself?
  • Do you question your beauty or worth when things go wrong?
  • Are you comparing yourself with other people?
  • Are you internalizing other people’s beliefs about what is beautiful?
  • Are waiting for someone to make you happy or complete you?
  • Are you in control of your own emotions?
  • Are you in control of your thoughts and beliefs?
  • Who and what is influencing your feelings about yourself? 

Cultivate Your Own Joy

I frequently hear women say they’ll be happy when they find a husband and have kids, but the truth is, there are no external things that can make you happy.

If you can’t be happy right here and now, exactly where you are, a marriage and kids won’t change that. A marriage won’t fix any of your problems, in fact, it might make them worse.

So make a decision to take control of your self-image, self-esteem, and overall confidence today! The first greatest love of your life is going to be with yourself!

If you need help getting there, don’t stress! Schedule a dating coaching session today and grab my new book Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You DeserveAmazon | Barnes & Noble

Till Next Time, 

Dee

Photo Credit: Image courtesy of Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash

Why I Inspire Women To Love Themselves

This week, I had the honor of being featured in a DatingAdvice.com article. The article really captured what I’m about and how I’m working to improve the dating world for women.

“According to Dee’s dating philosophy, when a woman knows her worth, she causes men to treat her better, and that can change the dating ecosystem one relationship at a time…”

Read the full DatingAdvice.com article here: “Dating Coach & Blogger Dee Simone Inspires Single Women to Love Themselves & Know Their Worth

Stay tuned because I’m bringing you more great dating advice next Saturday at 8pm EST!

Till Next Time,

Dee

P.S. Don’t forget to grab your copy of my new book– Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve

What You Need To Know About Parenting And Dating

Are you a single mom who is ready to start dating again? Are you already dating and want to make sure your children aren’t negatively impacted by it? Or do you just want to know how to ensure that your children have healthy relationships when they grow up?

You’re definitely going to want to join me on Source Radio’s Family Mix Mondays where I’ll be discussing what exactly you need to know as a single parent who is dating!

Hosted by Licensed Professional Counselor Jaketra Bryant, you don’t want to miss this show!

Call 619-924-0933 on Monday, December 18th at 6:15pm EST, to listen to the show live. You can also listen to the show on YouTube

**Get the book that’s going to transform your dating life– Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve Amazon | Barnes & Noble

Photo Credit: Photo by London Scout on Unsplash

This Holiday, Don’t Focus On What You’re Lacking!

During this holiday season, don’t focus on the fact that you don’t have a boyfriend or you aren’t married, or that you don’t have a plus one for your holiday parties and events.

During the holiday season, it’s so easy to focus on what you don’t have– I don’t have a man, I don’t have a great job, I don’t have a good living situation, I don’t, I don’t, I don’t. But, focusing on what you lack only takes away your happiness and enables feelings of sadness, depression, and feeling “less than.”

Being Single During The Holidays

When you have to get together with family and friends over the holidays, it can be nerve-wrecking if you’re worried about conversations that will lead to what you don’t have right now or what’s wrong in your life.

But, instead of taking away your joy and happiness by focusing on what you don’t have, try something new this holiday–focus on what you do have and be grateful for it!

Acknowledging and expressing gratefulness for the things you do have will allow you to productively take stock of all the great things in your life. As time goes on, we have a habit of focusing on all the little things that we feel are going wrong and we forget about all the great things we have accomplished, earned, or brought into our lives.

Increase Your Happiness & Joy This Holiday

By focusing on being grateful, you’ll ultimately increase your happiness because you’ll be fully aware of the wonderful things you have going on in your life.

The next time you start feeling sad or down about your situation, think about a time that you were really happy. Think about a time you accomplished something you were really proud of. By doing this, you will bring out those joyous feelings you had at that time. And, you need to embrace these positive emotions and let them wash over you and bring you back to that happy place you once were.

Do this anytime you start feeling bad due to your flawed belief that you’re lacking something.

Remember, you are enough and you’re not lacking anything! You don’t need a man to complete you because you were already created as a complete human being. 

Till Next Time,

Dee

P.S. Need some straight forward dating advice, no sugar? Buy my book, Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve! Amazon | Barnes & Noble

Photo Credit: Photo by Roberto Nickson on Unsplash