When you go out on a date, you hope to have great conversation and make a great connection. But sometimes, nervous or anxious feelings prevent us from maximizing our connection with a date.
For some people, drinking alcohol seems like a great way to loosen up and make the date a more fluid and enjoyable one.
However, while alcohol may temporarily ease that nervous energy, there’s a fine line between easing your tension and destroying the possibility of making a genuine connection with your date.
What’s Wrong With Drinking on First Dates?
Alcohol can easily have a negative effect on your date. You may become a little too loosened up by the alcohol, which could lead to a number of problems on the date.
Here are 4 problems with drinking on first dates:
- You might divulge way too much information too soon (To find out what “too much information too soon” is, check out my post on the topic Here);
- You might bring up inappropriate first date topics like religion, politics, exes, and more;
- You might make inappropriate comments that offend your date; and
- You might have a false sense that you made a real connection with your date.
False Sense Of Making A Connection
One of the worst problems with drinking on first dates is the fact that the alcohol could lead you to feeling that you’ve made a genuine connection with your date when, in fact, you haven’t made a connection at all.
By the end of the date, you may feel much closer to your date and “connected” while your date feels annoyed, offended, or completely disinterested.
Consuming alcohol makes it more difficult to recognize those subtle clues that let you know whether someone is interested in you or not.
In fact, alcohol can make you flat out misinterpret social cues that tell you a person is uncomfortable with your behavior, language, or conversation topics
Make A Love Connection!
In order to increase your chances of making a genuine connection or recognizing when there isn’t one, stick to ONE alcoholic drink on your date.
If you’re a more frequent or regular drinker, then you may bump this up to two. But, under no circumstances should you have more than 1-2 drinks on your first few dates!
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Till Next Time,
Thanks Paul! I’m glad you loved it!!
I agree – stick with one drink for “Dutch Courage” (as we call it in England) that way you get the relaxing feeling without experiencing those things above.
Thanks for offering your perspective. I’m always happy to learn English vernacular! Thanks for commenting!!
Lovely jubbly. I’m pleased you are chuffed with the lingo 😉
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Great advice, all true and correct. I can add more from behind the scenes of my dating adventures…I deliberately offer women a drink and then order a bottle. In a gentlemanly fashion I ensure that her glass is never empty; I do so naturally and don’t make a fuss of doing so. I’ll have a glass from the bottle, she’ll have the rest. I’ve found that alcohol loosens a woman’s lips – upper and lower. After 2 hours they’re pretty willing to tell me anything I want to know – no topic is taboo. If I decide she is not relationship potential for me, I revert to Plan B…to see where I can take things with her that night. 😉
Thanks for offering your honest opinion. Your plan B is exactly why I say stick to one or two drinks max :). I really appreciate your honest insight, as always!! Thanks for commenting!!