Valentine’s Day Challenge

Happy Valentine’s Day!


I know it’s a bit early to start shouting, “Happy Valentine’s Day,” but I have a really important Valentine’s Day challenge I want to share with you and you may need a few days to outline your plan of attack!

Don’t get scared, this is a creative, fun way of expressing what is often left unsaid!

Here’s The Challenge:

On Valentine’s Day, you have to tell your significant other and/or your loved ones 5 things that you appreciate and love about them.

In a world where we are so used to people pointing out what is wrong with others or what we need to change about ourselves, it’s that much more important that we make Valentine’s Day (and every day possible) an even more special day by spreading the kind of love that truly touches hearts and fosters positive self-esteem and self-worth.

What’s Your Execution Style Going To Be?

You can deliver your nuggets of appreciation in a Valentine’s Day card, but consider doing this in person or over the phone, if possible.

If your loved one lives in another city or state, mailing them this card or letter goes a long way. Writing letters is almost an extinct art form and anyone who loves you would appreciate this effort, sincerity, and expression of genuine love for the person they are.

We Are All Worth It!

Remember, we are all amazing, unique human beings with different talents and skills that lend itself to the wonderful, variety-filled world that we live in.

Do something different this year. Do something special!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Yours Truly,

Stop Waiting To Marry A Rich Man And Create Your Own Wealth Instead!

This week, DatingNews.com wrote a great article about why I feel it’s important for women to create the wealth or financial freedom they desire for themselves. You can check out the article here: Dee Simone of Dee’s Dating Diary Encourages Women to Seek Financial Independence Before Finding Love.

It’s not uncommon to see “must make six figures,” or some other income requirement, on a woman’s laundry list. But, income and wealth are not indicators of whether you’ll have a good relationship with a man. This is why I encourage women to create their own wealth.

And, in turn, this will make it easier for you to focus on and value those qualities in a partner that create the foundation for a healthy, love-filled, blissful relationship. 

Yours Truly,

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Yours Truly,

3 Ways To Take Control Of Your Dating Life

In this dating advice video, I discuss 3 ways that women can start taking control of their dating lives today!

For the full scoop, get my book– Picking Up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve! Amazon | Barnes & Noble

Till Next Time,

3 Reasons To Stop Facebook Stalking Ex-Boyfriends

Are you guilty of Facebook stalking your ex-boyfriends?

Well, in this short video, I give you 3 great reasons why you should never stalk your ex on social media!

Want more straight-forward, sugarless dating advice? Get my book, Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve

Till Next Time,

6 Excuses Men Give For Disappearing While Dating

Have you ever been dating a man and suddenly he disappears into thin air and drops off of the face of the planet? Most of us have! 

In this short video, I discuss 6 common unacceptable excuses men give for going MIA while dating.

If you haven’t already, please subscribe to my YouTube Channel– A Moment with Dee Simone — for full access to all of my dating advice videos. 

Till Next Time,

10 Signs You’ll Never Be Your Boyfriend’s Wife

Wondering if your boyfriend will ever marry you?

In this video, I discuss 10 signs that show you that your boyfriend will never propose to you or marry you. If you like the video, please subscribe to my YouTube Channel– A Moment with Dee Simone.

Also, check out these must-read articles:

Stop Treating Your Boyfriend Like Your Husband 

Red Flag: Does He Pull Disappearing Acts?

Till Next Time,

2nd Annual Sip & Paint With Relationship Advice

Join me in Miami on Saturday, March 17th, at the 2nd Annual Sip & Paint With Relationship Advice where I’ll be dropping much-needed dating advice!

Come out to enjoy a fun afternoon of painting and delicious cocktails!

Space is limited so get your ticket today –> Eventbrite

Hope to see you there!

Yours Truly,

Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Part 1 & 2)

If you’re single and wanting a great relationship, but are struggling to get it, you might just be keeping yourself single and not even know it!

I had the honor of returning to The Right to R.E.A.L. Love Radio Show with host Jay Mayo to discuss the top 5 issues that keep women single.

If you’re a woman, you’ve dealt with one or more of these issues at some point in your life! So turn off the TV, put down the phone, and listen in:

The Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Part 1)

The Top 5 Issues That Keep Women Single (Part 2)

If you recognize that you’ve been affected by one or more of these issues and want to break free of them, let me help you through it– grab my book, Picking up the Pieces, or schedule a coaching session today!

Stay tuned for parts 3, 4, and 5!

Till Next Time,

 

 

Your Confidence Is Dependent On Men And You Don’t Even Know It!

We’ve all been there. We’ve been stood up, taken for granted, compared to other women, cheated on, broken up with, and the list goes on… 

What happens afterwards, though, that is the most important part.

You see, we all tend to internalize negative feelings about ourselves because our dating life or relationships are going the way we want them to. And so we bash and blame ourselves for someone else’s actions, thinking things like–

  • What’s wrong with me?
  • Why aren’t I enough for him?
  • Why can’t I be like ____ (fill in the blank)?
  • Why doesn’t he appreciate all the things that I do for him?
  • I hate the way I look!
  • My body is disgusting!
  • I am so fat!
  • Why can’t I be super skinny? 
  • If I was prettier this wouldn’t have happened!
  • I must be bad in bed!
  • I’m not fun to be around!

Of course, there’s an endless list of nasty and negative things that we beat ourselves up with.

And why? Why do we do this on a regular basis??

We do it because, for some strange reason, it’s easier than loving ourselves and pushing away men who aren’t good for us.

Dependent Confidence

Most of us have been trapped in that cycle of living for other people’s acknowledgment, love, and approval. If we do start to like ourselves a little bit in some area, it’s usually only a matter of time before we qualify our confidence and reduce it accordingly.

Our self-image and confidence is often based on what society and the media tells us we are supposed to be. But when we let the outside world decide how we need to look, what will “complete” us, and what we need in order to be happy, we’re actually deciding to live unfulfilled, unhappy, loveless lives.

Remember, when you don’t love yourself, you can’t truly let a healthy love come into your life.

Artificial Confidence

Translated to the dating world, many of us have allowed our confidence to be entirely based on how men treat us or view us, how often men are calling us, or how often they tell us we’re “beautiful,” “gorgeous,” or “sexy.”

You should never need to hear a man say, “you’re beautiful,” to truly believe it deep down inside. 

Think about it this way, if you’re dating a man who constantly tells you that you’re beautiful and you start believing it and feeling really good about yourself, what is going to happen if you break up with this man?

Your confidence is going to drop quicker than it rose and that’s because it was never true internal confidence. In these situations, you’re building up an artificial confidence that feels real at the time, but isn’t. It’ll only last as long as you’re in that particular relationship and the man hasn’t messed up.

Get Control Over Your Confidence

Unless you do the internal work to regain control of your self-image and, therefore, your self-esteem and self-confidence, you feeling good will always be dependent on men, society, and the media.

The process begins with self-awareness and ends with a discovery and love of all the greatness within you.

Start by asking yourself these questions: 

  • Why do you feel the way you do about yourself?
  • Do you question your beauty or worth when things go wrong?
  • Are you comparing yourself with other people?
  • Are you internalizing other people’s beliefs about what is beautiful?
  • Are waiting for someone to make you happy or complete you?
  • Are you in control of your own emotions?
  • Are you in control of your thoughts and beliefs?
  • Who and what is influencing your feelings about yourself? 

Cultivate Your Own Joy

I frequently hear women say they’ll be happy when they find a husband and have kids, but the truth is, there are no external things that can make you happy.

If you can’t be happy right here and now, exactly where you are, a marriage and kids won’t change that. A marriage won’t fix any of your problems, in fact, it might make them worse.

So make a decision to take control of your self-image, self-esteem, and overall confidence today! The first greatest love of your life is going to be with yourself!

If you need help getting there, don’t stress! Schedule a dating coaching session today and grab my new book Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You DeserveAmazon | Barnes & Noble

Till Next Time, 

Dee

Photo Credit: Image courtesy of Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash

Why I Inspire Women To Love Themselves

This week, I had the honor of being featured in a DatingAdvice.com article. The article really captured what I’m about and how I’m working to improve the dating world for women.

“According to Dee’s dating philosophy, when a woman knows her worth, she causes men to treat her better, and that can change the dating ecosystem one relationship at a time…”

Read the full DatingAdvice.com article here: “Dating Coach & Blogger Dee Simone Inspires Single Women to Love Themselves & Know Their Worth

Stay tuned because I’m bringing you more great dating advice next Saturday at 8pm EST!

Till Next Time,

Dee

P.S. Don’t forget to grab your copy of my new book– Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve

What You Need To Know About Parenting And Dating

Are you a single mom who is ready to start dating again? Are you already dating and want to make sure your children aren’t negatively impacted by it? Or do you just want to know how to ensure that your children have healthy relationships when they grow up?

You’re definitely going to want to join me on Source Radio’s Family Mix Mondays where I’ll be discussing what exactly you need to know as a single parent who is dating!

Hosted by Licensed Professional Counselor Jaketra Bryant, you don’t want to miss this show!

Call 619-924-0933 on Monday, December 18th at 6:15pm EST, to listen to the show live. You can also listen to the show on YouTube

**Get the book that’s going to transform your dating life– Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve Amazon | Barnes & Noble

Photo Credit: Photo by London Scout on Unsplash

Did You Breakup With Your Boyfriend Because A “Spark” Was Missing?

Our past relationships have a big impact on who we choose to date in the future. Whether it leads us to dating better men or the same types of men we previously dated really just depends on whether we properly processed (mentally) our past relationships, learned the necessary lessons, and implement positive changes.

Unfortunately, most women don’t do this.

And while this perpetuates many different dating and relationship problems, today I want to focus on a more subtle problem that kills great relationships– thinking a “spark” is missing.

What Is The “Spark?”

The Merriam-Webster dictionary has several definitions for the word “spark.” However, the one that best fits relationships is this: “something that sets off a sudden force.” And still, this definition is pretty vague. 

In the end though, it doesn’t really matter how any dictionary or person defines a spark because the spark is really what we individually believe it to be. One woman might believe that the spark is having butterflies in her stomach while another woman might feel that the spark is wanting to continue talking to someone for hours on end.

Ultimately, the spark is a highly subjective concept. 

Every woman is looking for that spark when she’s dating a man. But how do you actually define a spark and is your definition of a spark hurting your relationships or leading you to dating terrible guys?

Are You Used To The Emotional Roller Coaster?

When women date men who treat them poorly and put them through a lot of ups and downs, which I call the emotional roller coaster, they consequently develop unhealthy attachments to these men and often confuse those feelings of extreme anxiety then satisfaction, during the ups and downs, as a strong spark and growing feelings of love.

They think those anxious feelings they have while waiting for Mr. Wrong to do right are really butterflies. But they’re not…

Then, when they meet a good man who is honest, genuine, and grounded, they think a spark is missing and, therefore, must be dating the wrong man. 

Are You Really Missing A “Spark?”

But before you cut things off with your next boyfriend because you think there’s no spark in the relationship, ask yourself this–are we lacking a connection or is there just a lack of drama in the relationship?

It’s extremely important that you evaluate what you believe the spark is because some women easily confuse stability as a lack of a spark when they’ve wrongfully internalized drama as the norm.

So, the next time you find yourself wondering if you’re dating the right man because you feel that something is missing, think: am I missing a spark or am I missing the drama?

Be honest with yourself so you can openly embrace a great, stable relationship with a great man!

Till Next Time,

Dee

Want more great dating advice? Buy my new book, Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve! Amazon | Barnes & Noble

Photo Credit: Photo by Allan Filipe Santos Dias on Unsplash

This Holiday, Don’t Focus On What You’re Lacking!

During this holiday season, don’t focus on the fact that you don’t have a boyfriend or you aren’t married, or that you don’t have a plus one for your holiday parties and events.

During the holiday season, it’s so easy to focus on what you don’t have– I don’t have a man, I don’t have a great job, I don’t have a good living situation, I don’t, I don’t, I don’t. But, focusing on what you lack only takes away your happiness and enables feelings of sadness, depression, and feeling “less than.”

Being Single During The Holidays

When you have to get together with family and friends over the holidays, it can be nerve-wrecking if you’re worried about conversations that will lead to what you don’t have right now or what’s wrong in your life.

But, instead of taking away your joy and happiness by focusing on what you don’t have, try something new this holiday–focus on what you do have and be grateful for it!

Acknowledging and expressing gratefulness for the things you do have will allow you to productively take stock of all the great things in your life. As time goes on, we have a habit of focusing on all the little things that we feel are going wrong and we forget about all the great things we have accomplished, earned, or brought into our lives.

Increase Your Happiness & Joy This Holiday

By focusing on being grateful, you’ll ultimately increase your happiness because you’ll be fully aware of the wonderful things you have going on in your life.

The next time you start feeling sad or down about your situation, think about a time that you were really happy. Think about a time you accomplished something you were really proud of. By doing this, you will bring out those joyous feelings you had at that time. And, you need to embrace these positive emotions and let them wash over you and bring you back to that happy place you once were.

Do this anytime you start feeling bad due to your flawed belief that you’re lacking something.

Remember, you are enough and you’re not lacking anything! You don’t need a man to complete you because you were already created as a complete human being. 

Till Next Time,

Dee

P.S. Need some straight forward dating advice, no sugar? Buy my book, Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve! Amazon | Barnes & Noble

Photo Credit: Photo by Roberto Nickson on Unsplash

Flawed Belief Systems That Keep Women Single

I had the privilege of going on Renaissance Relationship Therapy with Life Purpose Coach and Matchmaker Tem’Ti to discuss flawed belief systems that keep women single. 

Find out what beliefs you’re holding on to that are preventing you from getting that amazing love and relationship you truly want. Listen to the show below! 

Want more great dating advice? Buy my new book, Picking up The Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve!

Meet My Type Proudly Introduces… LOVE Tells

Meet My Type Proudly Introduces “LOVE tells,” an original web project that helps couples figure out their… situation. Want to participate?

If you’ve been dating a few months and wonder, “Are we right for each other?” Then we want to talk to you!

Go to www.meetmytypes.com/lovetells for more info, and to submit you and your mate for this exciting opportunity. Learn the truth behind what YOUR love tells!

Let’s Talk Relationships And Dating!

 

Join me in Ft. Lauderdale, FL on Saturday, November 11, 2017 for “Let’s Talk About Relationships & Dating!”

There will be a dynamic panelist of speakers offering insight on relationships and dating. Be prepared to learn, laugh, and talk about it!

You’ll also be able to get a signed copy of my new book, Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve

Get your ticket today on Eventbrite!

25 Love Quotes That Will Make You Think

After years of being single or years of dealing with bad relationships, you have to make sure that you continue to love yourself and that your actions and beliefs about dating actually support a healthy, loving relationship. So here are 25 love quotes that will uplift you, make you think, and help you step into your greatness:

  1. “In finding love, I think it’s important to be patient. In being in a relationship, I think it’s important to be honest, to communicate, to respect and trust, and to strive to give more than you take.” ~ Kina Grannis
  2. “We should remember that saying ‘I love you’ is only a beginning. We need to say it, we need to mean it, and most importantly we need consistently to show it. We need to both express and demonstrate love.” ~ David A. Bednar
  3. “Love who you are, embrace who you are. Love yourself. When you love yourself, people can kind of pick up on that: they can see confidence, they can see self-esteem, and naturally, people gravitate towards you.” ~ Lilly Singh
  4. “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” ~ Maya Angelou
  5. “True love doesn’t happen right away; it’s an ever-growing process. It develops after you’ve gone through many ups and downs, when you’ve suffered together, cried together, laughed together.” ~ Ricardo Montalban
  6. “Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that’s when you’re most beautiful.” ~ Zoe Kravitz
  7. “The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.” ~ Audrey Hepburn
  8. “Love yourself. It is important to stay positive because beauty comes from the inside out.” ~ Jenn Proske
  9. “Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.” ~ Ann Landers
  10. “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” ~ Mignon McLaughlin
  11. “Men always want to be a woman’s first love – women like to be a man’s last romance.” ~ Oscar Wilde
  12. “Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” ~ Oscar Wilde
  13. “It is easy to hate and it is difficult to love. This is how the whole scheme of things works. All good things are difficult to achieve; and bad things are very easy to get.” ~ Confucius
  14. “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” ~ Lucille Ball
  15. “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” ~ Buddha
  16. “I think every girl needs to love herself, regardless of anything. Like if you’re having a bad day, if you don’t like your hair, if you don’t have the best family situation, whatever, you have to love yourself and you can’t do anything until you love yourself first.” ~ Julianne Hough
  17. “Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.” ~ Maya Angelou
  18. “The course of true love never did run smooth.” ~ William Shakespeare
  19. “I love you, and because I love you, I would sooner have you hate me for telling you the truth than adore me for telling you lies.” ~ Pietro Aretino
  20. “Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else, exactly as you are.” ~ Ariana Grande
  21. “There would be no need for love if perfection were possible. Love arises from our imperfection…” ~ Eugene Kennedy
  22. “Love is like a virus. It can happen to anybody at any time.” ~ Maya Angelou
  23. “Since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul.” ~ Saint Augustine
  24. “When you fish for love, bait with your heart, not your brain.” ~ Mark Twain
  25. “In life, you have to take the pace that love goes. You don’t force it. You just don’t force love, you don’t force falling in love, you don’t force being in love – you just become. I don’t know how to say that in English, but you just feel it.” ~ Juan Pablo Galavis

Learn how to love yourself so that you can attract the love you really deserve, buy Picking up the Pieces today! Amazon | Barnes & Noble

Photo Credit: Photo by Bart LaRue on Unsplash

A Man’s Take On A Woman’s Dating Advice Book

I provided Andreas Michaelides of Thirsty For Health with a complementary copy of Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve in exchange for an honest review. Here’s some of what he said:

“This book is an efficient down to earth guide for women that want to stop having failed relationships. It covers a lot of issues that a woman should take into consideration and also fix in her life to be able to attract the right man into her life…

I loved the engagement the exercises offer with the reader… I am not a woman, but the philosophy can be applied to both sexes. I learned a lot about me. I did all the exercises, I had to twist the questions for men, but it was a fun thing to do. Also, the book helped me realize and understand a lot of issues I had with my ex-wife and even see and comprehend a lot of her behavior, especially her jealousy scenes…” Continue reading on Thirsty For Health

Ready to change your dating and relationship life for the better? Get your copy of Picking up the Pieces today: Amazon | Barnes & Noble | Books-A-MillionSmashwords

Till Next Time,

Dee

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

The month of October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), an issue that affects women, children, and even men.

History of Domestic Violence Awareness Month

In 1989, Congress designated the month of October as Domestic Violence Awareness Month and this evolved from the “Day of Unity,” which was conceived by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and held in October of 1981.

“The intent was to connect advocates across the nation who were working to end violence against women and their children. The Day of Unity soon became an entire week devoted to a range of activities conducted at the local, state, and national level,” which had the common themes of mourning those who died because of domestic violence, celebrating those who survived, and connecting those working to end violence (National Resource Center on Domestic Violence).

Resources

Review these important safety tips regarding your use of technology: Safety Tips

There are free cell phone donation programs, shelters, and even housing assistance programs available to victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. Contact your local domestic violence program, rape crisis center, or domestic violence hotline for more information about resources that are available in your area.

If you have been sexually assaulted, call the U.S. National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE) and you will automatically be connected to a local U.S. rape crisis program based on the area code of your phone number. You can also contact them using a secure, online private chat.

If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline today for help at 1­-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or TTY 1­-800-787-3224.

If you are in danger, please call 911.