Although online dating has made it much easier to connect with hundreds and thousands of people, you still need to be scrutinizing and use your best judgment when deciding who to talk to from an online dating website or online dating app. So, here are 18 types of men you should avoid when you’re online dating:
1. Mr. Scammer
Mr. Scammer is the man who asks you for money or favors. I don’t care if you’ve been talking to a man for two weeks or two months, NEVER give money to anyone you are talking to from an online dating site or online dating app. In fact, as soon as someone asks you for money, you need to stop talking them immediately.
There’s a lot of scammers using online dating to pray on women who are looking for love or attention. These scammers will say anything to get you to trust them or fall for them so they can manipulate you into giving up your hard earned money.
One woman was asked for money to help a man attend his “uncle’s funeral” that was in a different state. Another woman was asked to send a man thousands of dollars to help him move to the US so they could be together. After selling her house and sending the man thousands of dollars, she realized she had been scammed when the man never came to the US.
Some situations are more extreme than others, but the lesson here is that a person who is truly looking for love should never be looking in your wallet!!
2. Mr. Some College
When you see a man put “some college” on the education section of his profile, majority of the time, it means no college at all. Some men know that there are women who will not talk to them if they only have a high school education. So, instead of going with the full-blown lie of having a college degree, which they can’t pull off, they claim “some college” to gain points with you.
A friendly and non-confrontational way to see if a guy actually had some college is to ask him what he majored in or some other school-related question. If he says he “majored in everything” or gives you some other answer you know can’t be right, put that fish back in the water!
3. Mr. Bad Grammar
You can usually spot Mr. Some College by his terrible grammar, bad sentence structure, and lack of using periods. For example, “Hi sexi u beautiful u wana talk are meet up I hafta get to no u and sho u a gud time wit me.” Delete this message and never look back!
If a man can barely spell and put together sentence, he’s not right for you. I know this because you’re reading my blog. And, if you’re reading this you are far too intelligent to date a man who can hardly spell or write!
4. Mr. Superficial
Mr. Superficial will immediately ask to see more pictures of you before he even knows your name. If a man asks you to send him more pictures of you before taking the time to ask you about yourself and get to know you, move on! He’s obviously not trying to get to know you so if you’re interested in having a long-term relationship, Mr. Superficial is not the way to go!
5. Mr. Nothing Serious
Mr. Nothing Serious is the guy who puts “I’m not looking for anything serious” on his profile. This means that this guy is not interested in having a long-term relationship. He wants to have fun and casually date, nothing more.
No matter what Mr. Nothing Serious tells you in his messages or on the phone, he doesn’t want a relationship, period. When a man is upfront and honest about what he wants, believe it! You are not going to change his mind so don’t waste your time trying!
6. Mr. Me
Mr. Me never asks you questions about yourself. Mr. Me is completely selfish and isn’t genuinely trying to learn about your common interests. Whether you’re having online conversations or talking on the phone, if a man isn’t asking you questions about yourself so he can get to know you better, that should be a red flag to you.
If a man is messaging you and the conversation only revolves around him, he’s not interested in getting to know you at all.
7. Mr. Lay It All On The Table
Mr. Lay It All On The Table serves himself to you on a silver platter. If a man tries to tell you everything about himself as soon as you start talking, you have to be weary about this for two reasons. First, he could be trying to portray himself as someone different from who he really is. He may say he is sensitive, caring, patient, loyal, successful, well-off, etc., but you don’t know if that’s really true. And, some men are willing to sell women whatever type of dream they need to in order to get what they want. So, you have to take this kind of “upfront honesty” with a grain of salt.
Second, this guy may be trying to circumvent the real “get to know you” process so he can get you to feel like you know a lot about him, thus making you feel closer to him early on and that much closer to letting him get you in bed. Just be careful with Mr. Lay It All On The Table.
8. Mr. Nice Jerk
Mr. Nice Jerk gives you back-handed compliments. Back-handed compliments are basically insults that are given in the form of what seems to be a compliment. For example, “you’re beautiful, you must be crazy if you have to use online dating.” You should never entertain or date a man who claims you must have certain negative qualities without even getting to know you!
You deserve to be talked to with respect and any man who makes back-handed compliments is not worthy of your time. While some men don’t intentionally mean to hurt your feelings, if a man thinks in a way that he can only give you back-handed compliments, this isn’t the type of man that you would be happy dating.
9. Mr. I Work
You should always avoid the men who don’t put down a real profession in the job section of their profile. For example, “Getting money,” “I work,” “Hustler,” “Pirate,” “Music,” etc. are ridiculous job titles yet these are real responses that men have put on their profiles. When the pirate was asked about his job, he responded, “are you ready to walk the plank?”
Mr. I Work is not only full of himself, but he’s also full of crap. The evasiveness of getting around the job question with off the wall responses screams jobless, drug dealer, or weirdo. Whichever it is, this is a definitely a guy you should avoid dating.
10. Mr. Impatient
Mr. Impatient gets angry or annoyed when you don’t respond to his messages within minutes. For example, one man sent a woman this message after not getting a response within 15 minutes, “Why can’t women hold a conversation with a man? Geez!” This screams problems on so many levels.
This guy is obviously not only having problems with his online dating endeavors, but he could also be needy, jealous, controlling, and so many other things you wouldn’t want to deal with.
11. Mr. Sexter
Mr. Sexter loves to send women naked pictures of himself. Trust me, Mr. Sexter is only looking for sex. It doesn’t matter how much you have connected or vibed on the phone together, if he’s showing you his package, it’s for one reason. And, if you’re not interested in just having a casual sexual relationship with this person, then you shouldn’t be interested in continuing to talk to him.
12. Mr. Playboy
Mr. Playboy will have pictures of himself with other women on his online dating profile. When a man has pictures of himself surrounded by other women, beware! Most likely, he isn’t looking for anything serious. And, if he tells you the woman or women in his pictures are related to him, know that there’s a good chance he’s lying.
13. Mr. Mystery
Mr. Mystery has no pictures of himself on his profile or his face is barely visible in the pictures that are up. If a man is withholding pictures or hiding his face with glasses, hats, and or blurry pictures, you should definitely pass on this one.
When a man intentionally keeps you from seeing his face you have to wonder, what is he hiding? Maybe he’s in a relationship or married and doesn’t want to get caught or maybe it’s something else altogether. But, do you really want to stick around to find out? Probably not.
14. Mr. Blah Blah Blah
Mr. Blah Blah Blah’s about me section of his online dating profile looks like this, “blah blah blah lokdjflj dsflkajsdlk jadfalk sdjflsdh vjdhoah.” Don’t waste your time with this one.
15. Mr. Animal House
Mr. Animal House has profile pictures that make it look like he’s still in college living the party life. One picture of a man having drinks with friends is okay, but more than one is a red flag. If you want to date a mature man who no longer feels the need to party every night or weekend, you’ll definitely want to avoid Mr. Animal House.
16. Mr. Still Attached
Mr. Still Attached lives with his ex-girlfriend or the mother of his children. Enough said! Don’t waste your time!
17. Mr. Unoriginal
Mr. Unoriginal is the man who sends you what seems to be a nice thoughtful first message, but really, it’s just a copy and paste. This man wants to plants as many seeds as possible with women, but he’s lazy so he doesn’t want to take the time to read your profile and send you a message catered specifically to you.
Mr. Unoriginal doesn’t care that he told you he loves your smile when you were barely smiling in your profile pictures.
18. Mr. Rusher
Mr. Rusher wants to meet you tonight!! It doesn’t matter that he just contacted you for the first time 15 minutes ago. This is definitely a bad idea. Most likely, this guy is looking for something quick and casual. If he was really looking for something serious, he would take the time to have a few conversations with you before trying to see you.
There’s a lot of garbage on online dating websites and online dating apps and it’s up to you to weed out the wrong men. Don’t let your desperation of wanting a date or a boyfriend make you overlook important red flags. You’ll only regret it in the long-run.
For safe online dating tips, read my article 10 Tips For Safe Online Dating.
For more great dating advice, check out my book: Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve.
Till Next Time,