This Holiday, Don’t Focus On What You’re Lacking!

During this holiday season, don’t focus on the fact that you don’t have a boyfriend or you aren’t married, or that you don’t have a plus one for your holiday parties and events.

During the holiday season, it’s so easy to focus on what you don’t have– I don’t have a man, I don’t have a great job, I don’t have a good living situation, I don’t, I don’t, I don’t. But, focusing on what you lack only takes away your happiness and enables feelings of sadness, depression, and feeling “less than.”

Being Single During The Holidays

When you have to get together with family and friends over the holidays, it can be nerve-wrecking if you’re worried about conversations that will lead to what you don’t have right now or what’s wrong in your life.

But, instead of taking away your joy and happiness by focusing on what you don’t have, try something new this holiday–focus on what you do have and be grateful for it!

Acknowledging and expressing gratefulness for the things you do have will allow you to productively take stock of all the great things in your life. As time goes on, we have a habit of focusing on all the little things that we feel are going wrong and we forget about all the great things we have accomplished, earned, or brought into our lives.

Increase Your Happiness & Joy This Holiday

By focusing on being grateful, you’ll ultimately increase your happiness because you’ll be fully aware of the wonderful things you have going on in your life.

The next time you start feeling sad or down about your situation, think about a time that you were really happy. Think about a time you accomplished something you were really proud of. By doing this, you will bring out those joyous feelings you had at that time. And, you need to embrace these positive emotions and let them wash over you and bring you back to that happy place you once were.

Do this anytime you start feeling bad due to your flawed belief that you’re lacking something.

Remember, you are enough and you’re not lacking anything! You don’t need a man to complete you because you were already created as a complete human being. 

Till Next Time,


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Would Your Boyfriend Rather Spend The 4th of July With The Boys?

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The 4th of July is a great opportunity to spend quality time with your friends, family, and significant other. From barbecues to seafood boils, the 4th of July has a way of bringing people together.

If you’re in a relationship and not working on the 4th of July, you’re probably expecting to spend the holiday with your boyfriend. But, what if your boyfriend would rather spend the 4th of July with “the boys?”

If you live with your boyfriend or spend a lot of time with each other, you may want to catch up with your own family and friends over the holiday. And, it’s great to stay connected with your family and friends while you’re in a relationship.

But, if you don’t get to spend a lot of time with your boyfriend because of busy schedules, the holidays are the perfect opportunity to get that quality time in. So, if you don’t spend a lot of time with your boyfriend and he’d rather spend his free time over the holiday with his boys, then this is a red flag.

Don’t be afraid to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about how you feel. If you want to spend time with your boyfriend over the holiday, express this and if he still doesn’t want to spend time with you, then you may need to re-evaluate your relationship.

And, if you don’t spend the 4th of July with your boyfriend, definitely don’t mope around the house feeling sorry for yourself. Call up some friends, make plans, and go have some fun!

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Happy 4th of July!

Till Next Time,