Unfortunately, many women who are hurt by men start feeling like they aren’t as pretty or smart as they really are.
Why is it that women tend to base their self-esteem and self-confidence on how men treat them or feel about them?
The hardships women face in dealing with men, frequently force women to rethink the way they feel about themselves and this isn’t right!!
Dating Problems Are Just That
The problems you experience in dating are just that, dating problems and nothing more. These problems shouldn’t determine how you feel about yourself and your beauty!
When men have problems in their relationships, do you think they start questioning their self-worth?
Or do you think they take those problems for what they are and not let them turn into other self-esteem issues?
When you have problems in your dating life, you definitely need to do some deep thinking about what went wrong and how you may have contributed to those problems.
But, the last thing you need to start thinking is, “Am I not pretty enough? Skinny enough? Entertaining enough?”
You can’t let a man make you feel badly about those fundamental things about yourself. You felt beautiful when you first started dating him, right? So, why should you not feel beautiful when you stop dating him?
His Games Shouldn’t Affect Your Self-Worth
Just because a man has chosen to play games with your heart or lead you on, doesn’t mean that you aren’t a great woman! A man’s issues shouldn’t lead you to have more issues of your own.
Take responsibility for the problems you caused or enabled in your relationships, but NEVER EVER think that you are any less of the smart, beautiful, caring woman that you were when he met you.
Your self-confidence should never be a reflection of how men feel about you!
Even if he cheats on you, you can’t start convincing yourself that you aren’t pretty.
Maintain Your Self-Esteem
Self-Esteem is just that, SELF–esteem. It’s YOU that determines it, not a man and certainly not the world.
You have to know your worth and maintain your self-confidence no matter what you go through with men.
Now, I know it’s much easier to say don’t let men’s bad behavior affect your self-esteem than actually living it.
But, the truth is, you’re giving men way too much control over your emotional well-being and self-esteem by letting them dictate your level of self-confidence.
No matter what you go through in this world, know your worth and NEVER FORGET IT!
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Till Next Time,
1000x Amen to this!
I’m glad you connected with this post! I really hope it helps women remember their worth!
That’s a massive (and unhelpful) generalisation. The answer to your question is: yes, we do. Not always, but then it isn’t always the case for women either.
-I did when my marriage broke down. I did have long-standing self-esteem issues though that were not helped by my ex-wife blaming me for her cheating – made infinitely worse in fact.
Yes, it was definitely a generalization and I understand that not every man and woman will allow their relationship problems to affect their self-worth.
I hope this post inspires both men and women to maintain their self-esteem in the face of dating problems. I really appreciate your input, thanks for commenting!
Thanks for checking out my post, I’m glad you like it!