Aside from ending a relationship because of cheating, abusiveness, and other serious deal breakers, there are certain things a woman must do before she decides to leave a man.
I firmly believe that a woman shouldn’t leave the man she is dating until she has tried everything within her power to make the relationship work.
Male or female, no one is perfect. We are all flawed in some way. We can change some things about ourselves, but not everything. It’s up to us to TRY and change those things that we can.
It’s better to give a relationship your all so you can leave with a clear mind. No one likes looking back on a relationship thinking, “Could I have done more to make it work?”
If a woman breaks up with a man before trying everything she can to make that relationship work, she’ll most likely look back on the relationship with regret or constantly wonder whether she made the right decision ending it.
And, when a woman is unsure of whether she made the right decision in breaking up with a man, it’s all too easy to end up back in that relationship. She may end up going back to him for round 2, 3, and maybe even 4!
Boomeranging with an ex is a huge waste of your dating time! If it didn’t work out the first time, the chances of it working out in round 2, 3, or 4 are even slimmer!
Instead of boomeranging with your exes, date them once, give it your all, and if it still doesn’t work, move on and NEVER look back!
Set A Cut-Off Date
If you’re considering leaving your relationship, but first want to try something new so you don’t look back with regret, you have to set a cut-off date for yourself!
Maybe you want to give it 2 months or maybe 6, depending on the depth of your issues. If your issue is waiting for your man to go back to school then 6 months is more reasonable than one or two.
But, never stay in a relationship for more than 2 years waiting for a ring, circumstances to change, or for your man to go back to school. Whatever your thing is, always have a cut-off date.
If you’re not happy by your cut-off date, cut your losses and end it!
You can’t try to make a relationship work indefinitely. Time flies and we’re only getting older.The sad truth is, it gets harder to find a good man and husband as we get older.
If you stay in a relationship too long after you should have left, you’re only hurting your chances of finding what you really want.
And, by staying in the wrong relationship for too long, you’ll still have regret over that relationship, but for a different reason.
Make Positive Changes In Your Relationship
I’m not at all writing all this to say that you should stay with a man that’s isn’t right for you or treats you badly.
I’m just saying that if you aren’t completely happy in your relationship, you owe it to yourself to try to change what you’re unhappy about before jumping ship.
Tips For Change
If you’re generally an impatient person, try showing more patience in your relationship. You can also try handling your disagreements differently.
Maybe you’re too aggressive or too submissive in disagreements. Find a balance and change up your usual approach.
When addressing your issues, use the word “I” instead of “You.” You’ll see that people are less defensive when you say “I feel…” as opposed to “You…”
Sometimes we get so used to talking to people or handling issues with them in a certain way that we continue that habit, whether it’s beneficial or not.
So, if you think you may have unanswered questions about your relationship that may lead you back to your man months or years down the line, then put some serious effort into handling things differently in your relationship now.
And, if it still doesn’t work, move on!!
For more great dating advice, get my book: Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve.
Till Next Time,
For me, it is absolutely the case that second chances never work. Good post!
Thanks Paula! Sometimes it takes giving someone a second chance to remember why you left them in the first place! Thanks for reading!