Why Having A Boyfriend or Husband Won’t Bring You Happiness


The pursuit of happiness… It’s something that everyone wants, but not everyone gets. But, what exactly is happiness? Is happiness for you the same as happiness for me? The truth is, happiness is subjective and only you can define it for yourself.

If you ask women what will make them happy, many will tell you “a boyfriend” “a husband” or “kids.” But, the reality is, having a boyfriend, a husband, or children will not make you happy.

You have to find a way to be happy with yourself first and foremost. If you can’t be happy as a single woman, there’s no way another human being can change that! A person cannot create happiness for you and having a person to call your boyfriend won’t accomplish this either. You have to look to yourself.

There is an upside here though. Happiness attracts more happiness. Have you heard the saying, “positivity attracts positivity?” When you’re positive, you will bring more positivity and positive people into your life. However, when you’re negative, you’ll attract more negativity and even negative people into your life. Well, it’s the same concept with happiness.

Remember, people can sense happiness, but they can also sense sadness, insecurity, and low self-confidence. If you’re unhappy in your life, you’re going to attract other unhappy people. And, when you’re truly happy, you’ll find that other positive things will follow from that.

I can say pretty confidently that the type of man you probably want to date wouldn’t want to date an unhappy woman. So, in finding your true happiness, you’ll really be in the best position to attract the type of man you actually want. Do the digging, do the soul-searching, do whatever needs to be done to find your happiness.

For more great dating advice, get my book: Picking up the Pieces: Rebuilding Yourself for the Love and Relationship You Deserve

Till Next Time,


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2 thoughts on “Why Having A Boyfriend or Husband Won’t Bring You Happiness

  1. Very true. Happiness and confidence is super confidence. The challenge is maintaining that when you are IN a relationship and hit stumbling blocks. It’s easy to get thrown on balance, so it’s a good idea to have hobbies and passions that you maintain when you enter a new relationship and even throughout a marriage.


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