Many women feel they need a man to “complete” them. They’ll say a man is their “better half” or “he completes me.”
But, the truth is, a man can’t complete you. Only you can complete you! Two halves won’t actually make a whole, so you need to feel whole with or without a man.
It’s unfair to yourself to base your completeness and happiness on whether you’re in a relationship.
And, if you do, you’ll be miserable when you’re single and possibly desperate for any man who will show you attention.
What’s The Root of the Issue?
To say that a man completes you, is to say that you have some void in your life without a man.
You have to be complete on your own before entering a relationship or this could cause other serious issues with your boyfriend.
Ultimately, dependency issues may be at the root of needing a man to “complete” you. Are you clingy or needy in your relationships?
You may find yourself not wanting to do any activities without your boyfriend. Or, maybe you don’t want him to do any activities without you.
Either way, falling victim to this “he completes me” mentality may lead you to becoming unhealthily dependent on your boyfriend and relationship.
It’s time to start evaluating yourself. You need to figure out why you think you need a man to complete you.
If you say that a man completes you, then you’re incomplete when he’s gone. What are you when your “better half” leaves?
Why aren’t you a complete person without a man?
Honestly think about these questions so that you can help yourself come to terms with the fact that you’re an amazing woman who doesn’t need any person to complete you!
You are and always will be a whole person. You were born as a complete woman and to allow yourself to think otherwise is absurd.
A man is meant to complement who you are, NOT complete you! Remember that!!
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Till Next Time,
Massive thumbs up to this! From a man’s perspective, they are usually easy to spot in the world of online dating. They tend to use phrases like:
“Looking for my knight in shining armour”
“Need a man to sweep me off my feet”
And as you said above:
“I feel incomplete / Can you complete me?”
They tend to use words like “need” rather than “want” too.
Thanks!! You make a great point that, in online dating, men can easily spot this type of woman. Thanks for commenting, it’s always great for women to hear the male perspective!
Why didn’t I find your blog 3 months ago?! This is now my bible xx
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