What can you expect from your family and friends when you tell them about your boyfriend’s bad behavior and decide to stay in the relationship anyway?
First, you can expect them to write your boyfriend off as a good match for you. They certainly won’t be as supportive of your relationship with him after his wrongdoing.
Second, the negative feelings your family and friends have towards your boyfriend’s wrongdoing could translate to tension, awkwardness, or flat out animosity between your loved ones and your man.
When a woman’s boyfriend and her family don’t get along, the unfortunate consequence is that she may start seeing her family much less, if at all.
Sadly, the tension between your family and boyfriend and the ill-feelings that are harbored often times results in a woman choosing her boyfriend over her family.
Your Family Didn’t Forgive Him
You have to remember, your family isn’t the one who forgives your boyfriend of his wrongdoing, it’s you that forgives him.
And, although you may forgive your man for cheating or some other egregious act, your family and friends will never forget what he did to you or how he hurt you.
Your boyfriend may have apologized to you profusely and showered you with gifts or affection, but your family and friends aren’t on the receiving end of this. So, its much harder for them to let go of your man’s bad behavior since they aren’t a part of the “making up process.”
On top of that, your loved ones may not be willing to sugarcoat their feelings or “play nice” with your boyfriend when he’s around.
Don’t Expect Family to Support Your Decision
So, if you plan on staying with your boyfriend after he’s hurt you in some way, don’t expect your family to be supportive of your decision!
Don’t be mad when your family and friends don’t condone your relationship or aren’t even willing to hide their true feelings about your man.
While you don’t want there to be tension between your family and boyfriend, staying in a bad relationship could result in exactly that!
Do you really feel that your family will want you to stay in an unhealthy or dysfunctional relationship? Not a chance!
The reality is, having family and friends that care about your well-being is much more important than having people in your life that are willing to support or encourage your destructive decisions.
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Till Next Time,
Nice post, a boyfriend’s bad behavior should never be forgiven by the girlfriend’s family. It’s true that the girlfriend should be the one that forgives him, but one must be careful of the consequences of forgiving bad behavior such as isolation from family and becoming alienated from friends.
Yes, it’s definitely important to make sure you don’t isolate yourself from family or alienate yourself from friends. Thanks for reading my post and commenting Tru!!!