During the course of a relationship, we usually cultivate many things from our partner. From gifts, to “borrowed” shirts and sweaters, it’s easy to rack up a lot of items from your boyfriend.
But, after a break up, should you be keeping any of these things?
The answer is no.
Why You Shouldn’t Keep Your Exes Stuff
When you’re trying to get over a relationship, the last thing you need is to have a bunch of stuff around your house that constantly reminds you of your ex and the relationship you had.
Your exes stuff could send you into emotional lows and put you back in that sad place that you were in at the end of the relationship.
Keeping your exes stuff around definitely makes it more difficult to get over the relationship.
These little reminders of your ex will only prolong and delay the healing process after your break up.
And, this is definitely not what you want.
Let’s Make A Distinction
For some women, yes, seeing an exes things or the gifts he gave can send them into emotional spirals.
But, there are some women who can break up with a boyfriend and not be emotionally affected by seeing some of his stuff.
Take for example, the sweater you took from your boyfriend and love wearing because it’s huge and super comfortable!
Some women might see this sweater after a break up and cry into it. While other women may continue to wear the sweater and simply enjoy its comfort with no emotional attachments or issues.
Why Make This Distinction?
I have to make a distinction between women who can keep some of their exes things without being emotionally affected by it and women who can’t.
If you can separate the emotional attachments between your ex and certain items, then you don’t necessarily need to get rid of everything.
If your ex got you a gift that you’ve always wanted and you won’t be reminded of him every time you look at it, then there’s no need to junk the gift.
But, do keep in mind that even if you are great at separating your emotions from the gifts your ex gave you, a new boyfriend could have a problem with you keeping some of these things anyway.
Why Do You Need Your Exes Stuff?
While it may seem harsh to get rid of your exes stuff after the relationship, sometimes it’s the healthiest thing you can do for yourself.
You don’t need a bunch of CDs, pictures, and other things to remind you of your ex.
At the end of the day, you’ll always have your memories and no one can take that from you.
So, don’t allow yourself to unnecessarily hold on to things from your past relationships.
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Till Next Time,