While I normally address red flags that women should be watchful for with men, I want to focus on 5 red flags that men need to watch for with women.
Although some men are great at identifying red flags that tell you a woman may not be good relationship material, some men don’t readily notice these clues.
So, here are 5 Red Flags That Men Need To Watch For:
1. She Talks About The Future Too Soon
Talking about “the future” too soon is definitely a red flag that you need to pay attention to. This is a sign that she may try to force the progression of your relationship.
Listen carefully when your date is speaking. If she uses the word “we” a lot, then you have a good idea of what you may be getting yourself into by continuing to date this woman.
If a woman is making plans for the both of you and it’s only your second date, you can’t act surprised when soon after she’s trying to pressure you into a relationship and then marriage!
2. She’s Needy, Clingy, or Desperate
It’s never a good idea to date a needy or clingy woman. Clinginess is a sign that a woman will have dependency issues in the relationship.
Dating a woman that is completely dependent on you is detrimental to having a healthy relationship.
A needy woman requires A LOT of attention and pacifying. She can’t be alone and she’ll want to spend all of her time with you, which could make you feel suffocated by her attention.
3. She Talks About Her Ex
Talking about exes on the first few dates is a HUGE red flag! If she’s talking about her ex-boyfriend on a date with you, face it, she’s NOT over him.
You don’t want to have to deal with the emotional baggage she’s carrying from her last relationship.
Some women don’t take the necessary time to deal with issues from their previous relationship and actually HEAL before getting back into the dating world.
If you don’t want to deal with a woman’s issues that another man caused, then steer clear of the woman who can’t help but talk about her ex!
4. She’s Jealous Or Snoops
If your date makes a reference to you being a player type or suggests that you must date many women, and you’re not, this is a red flag that she may be the jealous type.
You don’t want to date a woman who is jealous for no reason because this will play out in your relationship if you decide to date her exclusively.
With a jealous woman, she may accuse you of cheating or even snoop through your phone or other things. Dating a jealous woman is not conducive to having a happy or healthy relationship.
5. She’s Insecure or Lacks Self-Confidence
If a woman is very insecure and lacks self-confidence, this is a sign that you will have to put A LOT of effort into dating this woman.
This is because an insecure woman requires a lot of emotional work and, therefore, a lot of emotional support from you.
While it may seem admirable to take this relationship on and try to help your girlfriend work through her self-worth issues, true change can only come from her.
There’s nothing you can do to make her secure about herself. It’s called “SELF-” worth and “SELF-” confidence for a reason, it has to come from her, NOT you!
What are your experiences with dealing with these kinds of red flags? I’d love to hear your stories and perspectives, so please leave a comment below!
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Till Next Time,
Wow! What a nice article, it’s nice for a woman to give men advice on what men need to look out for from women in the dating experience. Although men ideally should want a woman’s perspective, most men are filled with too much bravado to accept their advice. Keep posting articles and I’m sure to keep reading!
Thanks Tru, I’m glad you liked this article!! Thanks for checking out my blog!!!
Perhaps, but when it comes to red flags in women it makes sense to listen more to the advice of other men – the people who are learning these negative experiences. I think there is a natural tendency in women to consider themselves experts in relationships, even if they have never had one!
It makes sense though for both genders to listen to the opposite sex on occasion. Male friends can advice their female friends what to avoid and vice versa.
Great list! Just goes to show, we don’t have it easy either.
I would add “victim complex” as a sixth. Typically they exhibit an attitude of “all men are pigs” and expect you to agree with them. If you don’t, you’re a pig too; if you disagree with her on anything, then you’re belittling her.
She refuses to take responsibility for her own mistakes in life (which she keeps making) and naturally, everyone else is to blame – especially if they have a penis.
Thanks!! And, the “victim complex” is definitely another red flag to be mindful of! Thanks for sharing your perspective and taking the time to comment!!
Great list! At this day and age of social media, I think another red flag is excessive attention on Facebook or Twitter. For example, constantly tagging your significant other at the very start of the relationship in mushy statuses, shared, again, mushy photos, links, etc. This to me raises another red flag for obsessive behavior.
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Thanks Kira!! Great contribution, excessive or obsessive attention is definitely a red flag! Thanks for taking the time to read my post and comment!!