Although we live in an era where men and women are getting married at much older ages, this shift hasn’t affected men as much as it has affected women.
Society accepts men being “bachelors” for a longer period of time now. Man can live the bachelor life well into their 30’s without repercussions.
And, in contrast to women, when men are ready to settle down in a relationship in their older age, they are still considered very eligible bachelors.
But, when a woman is over 30, she isn’t necessarily viewed as a very “eligible” bachelorette.
Why The Pressure to Get Married?
Most women in their mid 20’s or even earlier start feeling pressure from their family or friends to find a boyfriend, get married, and have kids.
Most of our parents and grandparents grew up in an era where getting married at a young age was the norm.
Women went from their parent’s house straight to their husband’s house and being married by 18 wasn’t seen the way it is today.
With this, you can understand why older generations don’t necessarily understand a woman’s choice to remain single past the age of about 20.
The Double Standard
It’s a shame that as a single woman ages, sometimes her value in the eyes of the world tends to decrease while a man’s value tends to increase as he ages.
It’s a clear double standard.
Men age, cultivate their careers, and build their wealth and this makes them more desirable, eligible bachelors to women.
But, it’s not necessarily the same for women. A 40-year old man with his career together is more sought after than a 40 year old woman with her career and life together.
Why Fight The Pressure to Get Married?
Here’s the problem…
If you do fall victim to society’s pressure to get married before you’ve met your match, you’ll quickly pick and marry a man who isn’t right for you.
You’ll settle. You’ll let go of all those things you’ve wanted for yourself and pretty much just take what you can get at the moment.
Because, time is of the essence right?
When you feel pressure to be married, you have to remember that settling for any man won’t make you happy in the long run!
Whose Life Is It?
While your family and friends may encourage you to settle down with someone who isn’t right for you, you have to remember that it’s YOU who has to be with this person for the rest of your life, not your family or friends!
Your family and friends won’t have to deal with those problems that come with dating and marrying the wrong person, you will!!
Despite the world wanting you to be married, you can’t let this run you into the arms of Mr. Wrong.
Hold out for your Mr. Right, as hard as that may be! He will come along one day and the wait will certainly be worth it!!
Stay strong my single ladies!
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Till Next Time,